Focus on your Fears Instead of your Goals


The more I learn through coaching my clients, the more I realize that my belief in positive thinking may not always serve them best.

For example, researchers have recently uncovered an amazing fact – focusing on a positive mental image of your goal and ignoring your fears (as proposed in productions like “The Secret”) may not be the best first step towards it’s attainment – in test cases, focusing on the worst case scenarios, when done properly, is actually better!

Why? Because dreaming and visualizing actually relaxes you…and in effect slows down your momentum. Also, ignoring your fears is an avoidance tactic which in itself is a poor way to progress towards a goal.
But properly identifying and listing your fears, then tackling them one by one creates progressive wins, confidence, energy, and momentum!

Try this very simple but powerful exercise – (and yes, this could change everything for you, so if you have a goal you’ve hesitated to go for, do this!!)

Grab a sheet of paper and at the top write down a major goal you wanted for a long time, but have been afraid to start (quiting your job and launching the small business of your dreams, ending that negative relationship, writing the book you were meant to write…etc). Now –

STEP 1. Make a Worst Case Scenario List

  • In column 1 – List all of the worst things that could happen if you attempt to do what you want. (fears, barriers, challenges)

  • In column 2 – List all of the things you could do to minimize all those terrible things.

  • In column 3 – List things you would need to do to get back to where you are from each potential setback.

STEP 2. Rehearse the worst case scenarios.

Yup, carve out a few days in the next couple of weeks to tackle a major fear on the list – facing it and living it!

So say your goal is to quit your job and your fear is that you don’t interview well, apply to some random positions and get an interview at a company, any company, just to force yourself to go through the process – or have a friend, mentor, or coach give you a mock interview.

What you’ll find is that what you feared in your mind is often a 100 times worse than reality. Also, that the strategies you’ve listed to get back on track after facing that fear actually work!!

Now, do it again, for each action or obstacle you feared…and you’ll start to see a pattern – our fears are more often lies we’ve sold ourselves, but they serve a purpose if we face them – they prepare us for success!

If you’d like to see a great little video on this concept, check out Tim Ferris’ presentation at Google!

Also, if you’d like my worksheet I created to try this, just shoot me a message at Facebook.com/BaezCoaching and I’ll shoot it over to you! Don’t forget to like my page too 🙂

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